There’s plenty of proof that your love story is worth sharing. That’s the theme of this series of posts. How can I be sure? Because I have a hunch your story contains some of the same elements as the epic, iconic love stories.
In my last post, I wrote about the first element of any great love story…the meet cute (Click here to read). Today’s post is about another critical element you and your spouse will relate to:
I’m writing a book about the power and importance of embracing and sharing your unique love story; and recently I’ve been researching the basic elements of love stories (in movies, literature, etc.) that have been produced over the years.
Very few couples take pride in their love story; and those who do take pride it, fewer still actually share it. Think about it. Think of the married couples you know that are happy. Do you know much about their love story? Probably not. And how many people know the details of how you and your spouse met, fell in love, married, etc.?
You might not know this, but there are common elements to most love stories we see in movies or read about in books. Hollywood has been using these elements for decades. Why? Because they work. And in my opinion…they actually are true to life; usually in less glamorous fashion, but true to life none-the-less. Not every couple experiences every element, but every couple experiences some of them – and that’s worth talking about.
My mission for my next several posts is to not only describe these elements, but to show that some of them are present in your story…in every story; and give you proof that your love story is worth sharing.
I’ve dug up six of them so far, but I’ll share them over the next several posts. Here’s the first one:
I have a confession to make. Are you ready for it? Here it is: I love a good love story. I’m a red-blooded American male who loves sports, actions movies, power tools, Worlds Strongest Man competitions (watching them, that is), and great looking trucks.
I don’t like fru-fru coffee drinks, or French restaurants. I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day, heart-shaped beds, or heart-shaped anything. But, I’ll say it again…
I love a good love story.
I realize that my macho friends might poke fun at me for this, but it’s true. Many people (even some women) might roll their eyes at this confession, but I’m just being honest when I say…I’m moved by a good love story.
A good love story, mind you.
Remember the days when you couldn’t stand to be away from each other? Your desire and passion to be together was overwhelming…even painful at times.
I remember those days. Debbie and I had a long distance relationship when we were in college, so we had to write letters to each other. (Yes, actual pen to paper, snail mail letters!) We wrote at least 4-5 letters every week to each other for 4 years. We were committed to fighting the forces (either real or imagined) that were pulling us apart.
The highlight of my week was calling her on one of the campus pay phones. I can remember pumping quarters into the phone just to talk to her for 15 minutes. Of course, this was before the days of computers and smart phones.
Here’s what I remember about those years…
Are you the type of person who enjoys a good love story? If you are, then you probably have a few favorites, and they might even be depicted in the image below. Let me ask you another question.
Have you and your spouse ever talked through your personal love story together? Well, I’m convinced that your story can become your favorite story…if it isn’t already. Why? Because your love story is real.
Remember the opening line of the 80’s love ballad, Foolish Heart, (sung by Steve Perry)? …”I need a love that grows.”
Well, Debbie and I just celebrated our 21st wedding anniversary, which has me in a reflective mood; and I would like to share one, simple question I’ve been chewing on lately. My hope is that you’ll chew on it in your own marriage. Here it is:
Recently, Debbie and I have been arguing over who should do the grocery shopping, laundry, dishes, and other routine stuff.
“So what”, you may be thinking. “Lot’s of couples argue over shared responsibilities.” You’re right…they do. But we argue because…
A good marriage can be polarizing. What I mean is, it elicits different reactions. Think about it. How do people respond when they witness a married couple that’s happy and in sync with one another?
How do people react to a couple that’s a team, laughs together, and is truly one? You know what I mean, right? You know that kind of intimate marriage when you see it.
Here’s what I’ve noticed…
Have you ever had the naked dream? For some unknown reason, you’re in a public place with nothing on except your birthday suit and nobody will help by tossing you a piece of clothing. Not even a scarf. Yikes!
Studies show that 4 out of 5 adults will have the naked dream at least once in their life, and according to dreamdictionary.org, the causes of this dream are numerous:
Type in “why I hate Valentine’s Day” into any search engine and you’ll get plenty of reasons why people simply aren’t fans of February 14th.
Not surprisingly, single people hate it because it reminds them of their singleness. Many couples hate it because it feels contrived, costs money, and lines the pockets of greeting card, jewelry, and chocolate company executives.
Regardless, there is one good reason not to hate it. Think about it this way: