Have you ever had the naked dream? For some unknown reason, you’re in a public place with nothing on except your birthday suit and nobody will help by tossing you a piece of clothing. Not even a scarf. Yikes!
Studies show that 4 out of 5 adults will have the naked dream at least once in their life, and according to dreamdictionary.org, the causes of this dream are numerous:
* Fear of being exposed
* Feelings of shame with yourself
* Guilt in a particular situation
* Feeling overly vulnerable in a relationship
* Trying to be something that you are not
* Not being comfortable with your body
* Fear of being noticed
Nakedness is an odd thing, isn’t it? Back when I was in middle school and high school, all of us boys had to shower together after gym class. It was one big open shower. No curtains, no walls, no privacy. Very uncomfortable.
And its always associated with feelings of shame because everyone has parts of their body they don’t want to be exposed. And that’s really what its about, right? Exposure.
And then I got married, which includes lots of nakedness, and I’ve noticed that over the years the shame of complete and utter exposure has faded. And not just the shame of physical exposure, but the exposure of my deepest thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams, fears, past, etc.
And I think I know why. Absorb these words by Mike Mason in his book, The Mystery of Marriage:
The free and loving exchange of nakedness that takes place between a husband and wife is just one of the spectacular ways the divine ordinance of holy matrimony actually sets about to reverse the curses of original sin. Marriage attacks original sin, in effect, at its visible root, in the shame of nakedness, and defeats and heals this shame by directly confronting it on the safe and holy ground of a covenant relationship.
What is original sin? Well, Adam and Eve were originally created for perfect intimacy with God and each other. Consider Genesis 2:24 that says Adam and his wife were both naked and they felt no shame. That‘s what we were created for as well.
But their own sin and disobedience got in the way; and it came with consequences. After eating of the tree that God explicitly forbade, it effected the intimacy they shared together…
Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves. -Genesis 3:7
For the first time they felt the shame of nakedness in their relationship, and they made coverings for themselves so they could hide. They were no longer intimately comfortable with each other. Sin and its consequence was beginning to take full effect.
The Bible goes on to say they hid from God when He called for them, and they refused to take responsibility for their actions. The innocence of nakedness was lost, they felt fear and shame in their relationship for the first time, and their relationship with God and each other was broken.
Thankfully, Jesus came to reconcile our relationship with God the Father through His death and resurrection; and that reconciliation is available to all – married or single. But we still live with some of the effects of original sin, especially in our most intimate relationship…our marriage. But here’s the good news:
Your marriage helps to defeat and heal the effects of original sin (the fear and shame of nakedness and complete exposure). How? As Mike Mason says,
by directly confronting it on the safe and holy ground of a covenant relationship.
Your marriage and mine is the one place on this dark, sin-stained world for this to happen.
For a husband and wife to be naked together is like a kind of radiation treatment, the healing rays of which can be felt at the center of the soul. It is, as nearly as possible, a return to the very last statement the book of Genesis makes about mankind’s state of innocence in Paradise: “The man and his wife were both naked and they felt no shame.”
Think about it.Your marriage heals the effects of original sin (the fear & shame of nakedness & complete exposure) Click To Tweet