Remember the opening line of the 80’s love ballad, Foolish Heart, (sung by Steve Perry)? …”I need a love that grows.”
Well, Debbie and I just celebrated our 21st wedding anniversary, which has me in a reflective mood; and I would like to share one, simple question I’ve been chewing on lately. My hope is that you’ll chew on it in your own marriage. Here it is:
Recently, Debbie and I have been arguing over who should do the grocery shopping, laundry, dishes, and other routine stuff.
“So what”, you may be thinking. “Lot’s of couples argue over shared responsibilities.” You’re right…they do. But we argue because…
I have an interesting question for you. What’s at the heart of a satisfying, meaningful, and exciting sexual relationship with your spouse?
I wanted to share a couple of great quotes that will answer that question, and (I hope) stir your heart towards greater things.
As you may know, I’ve been somewhat consumed this year with Mike Mason’s book, The Mystery of Marriage. He has a way of digging deep into the heart and soul of marriage issues; in such a way that I feel transformed, not just informed. His words about married sex do not disappoint.
Here’s the first one:
A good marriage can be polarizing. What I mean is, it elicits different reactions. Think about it. How do people respond when they witness a married couple that’s happy and in sync with one another?
How do people react to a couple that’s a team, laughs together, and is truly one? You know what I mean, right? You know that kind of intimate marriage when you see it.
Here’s what I’ve noticed…
Have you ever had the naked dream? For some unknown reason, you’re in a public place with nothing on except your birthday suit and nobody will help by tossing you a piece of clothing. Not even a scarf. Yikes!
Studies show that 4 out of 5 adults will have the naked dream at least once in their life, and according to dreamdictionary.org, the causes of this dream are numerous:
Type in “why I hate Valentine’s Day” into any search engine and you’ll get plenty of reasons why people simply aren’t fans of February 14th.
Not surprisingly, single people hate it because it reminds them of their singleness. Many couples hate it because it feels contrived, costs money, and lines the pockets of greeting card, jewelry, and chocolate company executives.
Regardless, there is one good reason not to hate it. Think about it this way:
A ministry entitled Marriage Mentoring is one of the best ways to strengthen couples of all ages in your church.
Marriage Mentoring is the process of having a seasoned and experienced couple spend time with a less experienced couple to help show them the way.
I was intrigued by the results of the recent survey I conducted. My goal was to discover (among my readership) which marriage issues were the most interesting.
I think the results also gave me an idea of where the “points of pain” are for most couples. In other words, where they really see the need for growth.
The top three were…
Despite the busy-ness of the holidays, it can still be a very romantic and meaningful time of year for the two of you. Let me explain.
Christmas already has romantic elements built in – the lights, music, gifts, etc. It’s all around us! And the story (the real Christmas story of Christ coming to earth) is after all, a love story.
For God so loved the world that He gave (John 3:16)
I have loved you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3)
It’s been said that the essence of romance is pursuit – the unselfish efforts of a person attempting to win, and keep, the heart of another. And there’s no greater story of pursuit than…
A massive sequoia tree entitled, The Faithful Couple, at Yosemite National Park serves as a powerful illustration for married couples.
It’s about 40 feet in diameter and one hundred feet high. What makes it so special is that it’s actually two trees in one. Approximately 1500 years ago it