Your Unique Love Story

and how it can become your favorite

Are you the type of person who enjoys a good love story?  If you are, then you probably have a few favorites, and they might even be depicted in the image below.  Let me ask you another question.

Your Unique Love Story

Have you and your spouse ever talked through your personal love story together?  Well, I’m convinced that your story can become your favorite story…if it isn’t already.  Why?  Because your love story is real.

In 2008 Debbie and I began a journey of capturing every day, real-world love stories.  We had just started our marriage ministry and wanted to create an event for married couples that would be different than the usual offerings in the world of marriage-related events.  Our goal was to create an evening that would be more inspirational than instructional; more story driven than content driven; and focused on each individual couple rather than generalizations for the masses.

I'm convinced that your love story can become your favorite, because your love story is real. Click To Tweet

The result was an event we call Marriage Rocks.  It highlights the unique love stories of 3 couples in 3 different stages of life.  We capture them on video telling the truth about everything from how they met, to the most painful thing they’ve been through together.  And throughout the evening we pause the video and give each couple in attendance the opportunity to privately discuss the same questions they just witnessed on the screen.

The goal of the evening is to guide couples on a journey of discovery – a journey that helps them remember important elements of their own unique story.  Elements such as

  • how they met and fell in love
  • when they knew their spouse was “the one”
  • their engagement, wedding, and honeymoon
  • what they respect and appreciate most about each other
  • the toughest thing they’ve made it through together
  • how present and faithful God has been in their marriage
Remember the former things long past, For I am God...and there is no one like Me -Isaiah 46:9 Click To Tweet

Without fail, each time we’ve hosted this event, couples have said how inspirational it was – the stories, the conversation, and the opportunity to reconnect with their spouse.  By the end of the evening, couples are inspired to continue to live out their story.

Here’s My Point 

I can tell you from experience (leading thousands of people through our Marriage Rocks experience) that there are immediate benefits to looking back and retracing the steps of your love story.

In fact, I’m writing a book about this subject, and in it I list many reasons.  Here’s a peak at the first one…

You’ll become more fully committed to the rest of your story.  When you finish the journey of organizing your story (my book will include a step-by-step guide), you’ll become more aware of your future…which has yet to be written.

It reminds me of the ending of Back the Future III when Jennifer asks Doc why a note that she brought back from the future is now erased.  DoYour Unique Love Storycs says to her,

“Your future hasn’t been written yet. No one’s has. Your future is whatever you make it. So make it a good one, both of you.”

After all of Marty and Docs travels into the past, the trilogy ends with a thought-provoking insight about the future.

My point is this:

Your future is the most exciting part of your relationship

My hope is that as you look back, you’ll become more excited about your future together.  You’ll become more aware of how much you’ve invested into your story, how faithful God has been, and You’ll say to yourselves,

“Hey, if we’ve made it this far and made it through this much…then our future is bright.  Bring it on!”

Your future is whatever you make it. So make it a good one, both of you. -Doc Brown Click To Tweet

As I mentioned above, I’m writing a book about this very topic; and it will be a guide to help couples reclaim their love stories.  I have a long way to go, but remember me in your prayers.  It’s my hope that it will inspire and empower many couples around the world.

    Stephen has been blogging since 2014, and he enjoys writing honestly and openly about married life. He and Debbie are high school sweethearts and have been married for 20 years. They love a meaningful conversation, a rich cup of coffee, an inspiring movie, a perfectly prepared meal, and planning their next vacation.

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    2 thoughts on “Your Unique Love Story

    1. I’ve often thought about the things that are in your Marriage Rocks evenings,I just didn’t know there was such a thing.My husband and I are not the type to be romantic, neither one of us need that. We are more the type that need to laugh a lot , and we are both pretty good at that so it works. When we talk about the tough things we have been through we thank God we made it and can laugh about it. I look forward to your book and hope I can get a copy. Bless you for your work!

      • Thanks for your comment, Laura. I know what you mean about laughter. It’s invaluable. And for you and your husband to be able to laugh about the tough things in the past – well, that’s priceless. The word “perspective” comes to mind, if you know what I mean. Thanks for interacting with us!